MARRIAGE WITHOUT TEARS

Tears, rage, anger, disbelief, pain, and shock are emotions that will arise from the discovery of an affair. It is something that will catch you by surprise. You will not understand what happened. It might overwhelm you and drown you in despair. This experience is wished upon no one. But, it happens. Surviving affair will put you to the test. It will bring you to your knees and it will bewilder you. However, nothing is impossible if you believe that you can survive. The road is long and difficult. Where do you begin? And how will it end? Only time will tell. Let's begin this journey....follow my steps and you will be ok. Step 1 - In order to begin the path towards healing both spouses must be willing to work hard at mending the relationship. It will take effort, but the effort will not be wasted if both want to fix the problem. Even though the anger will make talking through the details very difficult it is important that you follow through even if it means small amounts of conver...

In marriage and divorce, we come across many experiences. "It's too hard to pull on with my spouse. How long can I go adjusting and bearing all tortures? No chance to go a long way". If these are the words heard from your spouse frequently with tears or fears, what can I do for you to pave the way for peace? I'm not here to give you commanding words of dos and don'ts. Also, I can't drag you to come along my way to solve your problems. It's with you to decide which is right and which aren't. Anyhow I am pleased to give you some strong tips to stop divorce and choose adjusting when in a critical situation rather than stimulating yourself to find out grounds for divorce. You are sure to have alternative ways to go along the present role with real love to your spouse. If your spouse just moved out choosing divorce and re-marriage with somebody else, it might throw you to the end of everything good with your homely peace. Such a breakdown has adverse impact...

It was precisely 17th October, 2003. At about 4pm (1600hrs) when Mr. Paul a member of a Christian church was caught in the act of adultery (infidelity) with another lady. The Clergy and Board of trustees summoned him to discuss the issue of his infidelity. The wife (Suzy) was also invited to hear what will be discussed. When the meeting started, the clergy broke the news to her that the husband (Mr. Paul) was caught sleeping with a lady (Rose) somewhere. After speaking, they queried her "What have you to say on this"? She replied "It may be true you said you caught my husband in the act of infidelity but for me I do not believe nor think that my husband can ever do such despicable act. I know my husband too well that he cannot bring such a shame to our matrimonial home." The Clergy and the members in anger and frustration to establish a point brought the meeting to a close. Both couples departed for home, and right on their way home Suzy said to Paul "I know to...

How do men and women, if we’re so different in our communication styles, fulfill their needs and their partner’s needs for emotional intimacy? According to extensive 30 plus year research conducted by Dr. John Gottman, there are two distinct categories of couples — the masters and the disasters of relationships. The masters are those who’ve been married for a certain number of years who (although they have issues in their relationships just like everybody else) have an uncommonly strong bond. And one of the things that he talks about which I’ve also observed in my practice is that people must continue to build emotional intimacy to have a lasting relationship. The one sure fire way to do this is by establishing a good friendship. In other words, in order to build emotional intimacy you have to show respect and truly care about the other person. I mentioned in earlier articles the importance of having regular meaningful conversations. Because if you feel that your partner is also your m...