The Christ-centered Family
Our God is
the creator and initiator of families. He loves, blesses and protects it. The
Scripture says in Psalm 68:6,
“God setteth the solitary in
families.”
From
biblical evidence, we can discern that God wants to be involved in the
foundation, features, functionalities, and fulfillment in families. His call to
the patriarch Abraham is an indication of His desire to work with and through
families to achieve His ordained program upon the earth.
“And I will bless them that bless thee,
and curse them that curseth thee, and in thee shall all the families of the
earth be blessed.”
God wants to
bless us, as well as carry out His plans and purposes upon the earth through
our families. Any damage to family life is, therefore, a threat to His agenda.
But when the family unit is run according to His order, both His church and the
earth is edified.
Read the book of Deut. 11:11-21
In the above
scripture, we can discern the mind of God concerning the family. God’s ultimate
desire is for the family to be completely, consistently, and convincingly
fulfilling. He says in verse 21, that we can indeed experience “days of heaven
on earth.”
What does this mean?
(1) It means that we can have continued
peace in our families.
(2) It means that we can be guaranteed
His continual presence in our families.
(3) It means that we can be assured of
His continual fellowship and partnership in our families.
(4) It means that we can continually express
the praises of our God in our families.
What is a family?
True biblical
family consists of a husband/father, a wife/mother, and the children. A broader
interpretation may, however, include members of the household or extended
family.
What then is a Christ-centered
family?
It is a family where every activity and decision is carried out in a manner that exalts
the Lord Jesus Christ. It is a family where Christ is seen as;
(1) The role model
………………………………..Heb.12:2a
(2) The mark ………………………….........Phil.3:14
(3) The means …………………………………John14:6
(4) The motivation ………………………………
When we have
a family with such character, we can say with confidence that a Christ-centered
family has been built.
Before we go
further, let us take a close look at Ephesians
5:21 to 6:4. The book of Ephesians is, by all means, the most incisive and
practical guide on Christian life and relationships. It is certainly Paul’s most exhaustive work
for the church. By this book, we can discern God’s heart for the family.
In the
context of the above scripture, we shall be looking at the Christ-centered
family from three perspectives;
(1) The picture of a Christ-centered
family
(2) The performance of a Christ-centered
family
(3) The principles of a Christ-centered
family
THE PICTURE OF A CHRIST-CENTERED
FAMILY
Eph.5:21-33, Col.3:18
The above
text elucidates the qualities inherent in a Christ-centered family.
(a) A Christ-centered family is made up
of a man and woman in a covenant of marriage. It does not include live-in
lovers, and gay couples. Both are
contrary to God’s plan for mankind. A union between members of same sex
disrupts His program. A man is a seed giver while a woman is a seed receiver
and incubator. The two must work together to fulfill God’s plan and purpose.
(b) A Christ-centered family is the
melting pot for all personal and collective challenges. This demands effective
and wise management of time, resources, and crisis conditions.
(c) A Christ-centered family is a
nurturing ground for the destinies of men and women. It must not be a
disorganized and unruly body. Every component of the family unit must maintain
orderliness.
(d) The Christ-centered family should
make holiness and righteous living a top priority in all activities and
relationships.
(e) The Christ-centered marriage must
consider their marriage vow as sacred.
(f) The Christ-centered family should be
a place for;
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mutual
care
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mutual
concern
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mutual
commitment
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mutual
co-operation
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mutual
respect
When we
focus our attention at meeting the above conditions, the peace, and joy of the
Lord envelop the home, and family closeness is enhanced.
THE PERFORMANCE OF THE
CHRIST-CENTERED FAMILY
Eph.5:22, 25, 6:1,4, Col.3:18-21,
1Pet.3:1-7, Deut.6;6-9, 11:18-21
A
Christ-centered family is a highly active body. Every component of the family has
divinely assigned roles to perform. There must not be a breaking of ranks. Any weak
link in the chain is a threat to the wellbeing of the entire family. From the above scriptures, we can deduce the
following;
(1) The
man, as a husband and father, is expected to fulfill the following roles:
(a) Love his family like the savior, giving his time and resources to their welfare, seeking the
best for them, sacrificially putting their needs above his own. A husband is
called to cherish his spouse inspite of her deficiencies and weaknesses.
(b) Lead his home like a servant, show good example, provide for their material needs, and be
a good steward of the family resources. No man should abdicate from this
responsibility.
(c) Be the spiritual leader or minister of the family. He must learn to feed his family
with God’s word continually.
(d) Be the role model by imbibing the virtues of Christ Jesus in his own life. What a man is determines what a man
does. A man’s character is shaped by his relationship with God. Learn to teach
your family the ways of the kingdom.
Ps. 78:5-7
“For he established a
testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our
fathers, that they should make them known to their children, that the
generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born, who
should arise and declare them to their children, that they might set their hope
in God, and not forget the works of God but keep his commandments.”
(2) The woman, as a wife and mother, is expected to fulfill the following
roles:
(a) Love her husband, accepting him not because off his performance but his divine position
as her head. This means making him;
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her
number one priority
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having
adequate time for him
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demonstrating
this love physically and emotionally
(b) Supporting her husband
Prov.31:10-12
“Who can find a virtuosos
woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely
trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and
not evil all the days of her life.”
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To
support the husband means helping him, not competing with him.
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To
support the husband means encouraging him to become a Godly leader.
(3) Submit to his leadership - Eph.5:22-23"
….and thy desire shall be to thy
husband, and he shall rule over you."
Gen.3:16
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In
the light of God’s word
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Stand
by him in all decisions concerning the family
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Honor
God’s word concerning your roles in the relationship.
(4) Respect him -
Eph.5:33b
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By
appreciating the weight of his responsibilities
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Appreciating
his unique needs as a man
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Appreciating
that he is in many ways different from you.
(5) Encourage
and motivate him to achieve excellence.
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by
building up his self-esteem
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admiring
him from time to time
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encouraging
him to achieve his goals in life.
(6) Build the home
“Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish plucketh it down
with her hands.”
Prov.14:1
Whether a marriage will be successful or not depends to a large degree on
the attitude of the woman. She may not have started the conflict but she has
the capacity to prolong or end it.
Prov.24:3-4
(7) Love and teach her children
A mother’s love requires time and attention. Learn to give the children
these two things and they will develop into healthy and well-adjusted adults.
Prov.29:15, 17,
“The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself bringeth
his mother to shame. Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he
shall give delight unto thy soul.”
(3) The Children in a Christ-centered family have two obligations to fulfill;
(a) To obey the parents at all times
(b) To honor their parents at all times.
Both obligations must be carried out because;
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They
are right.
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They
are commanded by God.
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They
carry in them the blessings of divine health and long life.
When every component in the family fulfills their roles and
responsibilities, there is an upsurge of genuine spiritual friendship,
fondness, freedom, freshness, and fruitfulness in the family.
THE PRINCIPLES OF A
CHRIST-CENTERED FAMILY
Eph.5:18-23, Prov.4:7,
14:1, Ps.119:89, 128, Col.3:21
Here, we shall be taking a look at the guiding principles
that can sustain and enrich a Christ-centered family. No matter the level of spiritual maturity or
moral weakness, if the home is run with these principles, God’s peace, joy, and
fulfillment shall yet abound. These principles provide you an opportunity to
weigh the strength of your family relationship with a view to making necessary
amends.
(1) The Principle of Scripture-centeredness.
Ps.119:89
All the components of the
family unit (husband, wife, and children) must respect and regard the Bible as
the final authority. This means that every activity of the family must follow
Biblical standards and be based on divine revelation.
(2) The Principle of saintliness
Ps.119:128
Every activity in the
family must be done in the love of God. Such activity must engender spiritual cleansing
and sanctification of the family unit. When we allow this sanctifying grace to
flow freely in the family, all negative emotions such as anger, intolerance,
lack of forgiveness, envy, and hatred stifles and die.
(3) The Principle of Spirit-fullness
The Christ-centered
family must yield itself totally to the Holy Spirit. In this power, all
carnalities are silenced. The family is sanctified, made fit for the Master’s
use, and prepared unto every good work.
Gal.5:16 says,
“………Walk in the Spirit,
and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
(4) The Principle of sound communication
To ensure effective and
quality communication, it is necessary to seek to understand, before seeking to
be understood. This means that we must never be in a hurry to respond when we
are yet to fully understand the point of argument. Good and effective
communication is very important in a Christ-centered family.
The scripture says in
Prov.15:4,
“A wholesome tongue is a
tree of life; but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.”
When in doubt, please
consider the counsel of Apostle Paul in Eph.4:29,31.
“Let no corrupt
communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of
edifying, that it may minister grace unto the heavens. Let all bitterness, and
wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all
malice.”
(5) The Principle of Submissiveness
Eph.5:21
“Submitting yourselves
one to another in the fear of God.”
This principle puts an
end to all manner of squabbles, infighting, abuses, repulsive anger, and
disaffection that tear down the fabric of families. As we “submit one to
another in the fear of God,” the spirits of genuine love and joy envelopes the
home.
Submissiveness enables
the Christ-centered family to continually live in peace, harmony, joy, and
freedom while fulfilling God’s purposes and plans upon the earth.
(6) The Principle of selflessness
Phil.2:4-10, 1Cor.10:31-33
Self-centeredness is the
bane of many individuals and families. The result is insecurity, intolerance,
ingratitude, anger, unfaithfulness, and all manner of vices that have ravaged
the family unit for centuries.
Selflessness, on the other hand, leads to sacrifice and Christlikeness. It
enhances family unity, and frees the members to pursue and fulfill their
God-ordained destinies.
(7) The Principle of role appreciation
While we discussed the
performance of the family, we observed that each component in the
Christ-centered family had a role assigned for her for the smooth running of
the family. This is God’s order for the family.
When we sacrificially perform these
roles and responsibilities, our families will blossom into God’s perfect
design. It is a home where He is honored, and His virtues are expressed on a
daily basis.
Our Lord
Jesus Christ said in the book of John
13:17,
“If ye know
these things, happy are ye if you do them.”
May the Holy
Spirit move your heart from being a mere hearer to a doer. God bless you, your
spouse, and children, in Jesus precious name.
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